Do you remember when you were a kid and and dreamed up an amazing life?
I remember watching movies with my friends as a kid and pointing out the fast cars that were “mine” and the attractive actresses that I would “marry” one day.
The funny thing was that I really believed everything I said!
Have you ever wondered why none of the wonderful things you imagined as a kid never happened to you?
Lets talk about NOW. Do you feel sick and tired of the endless monotony of your life? Are you frustrated and unsatisfied with the direction things are headed, but still believe you could live a more satisfying life if you had a chance?
Seriously- how many of you ride in your cars, and when a dope song comes on you begin to day dream about the awesome life you could have…then wonder why the fuck your life is so shitty right now.
You wanted to:
- Find a purpose in life and follow it till the very end, but now you’re stuck in a 9-5 job, trying to figure out if your 401k will be enough for you to survive on when you’re an old man full of regrets
- You read The 4 Hour Work Week, or Rich Dad Poor Dad, or Think and Grow Rich, decided to become wealthy, but ended up in debt up to your eyeballs, payment plans till infinity and becoming wealthy is only a dream because you are perpetually “surviving”
- See the world with a gorgeous woman by your side, but now all you get in life is two weeks vacation, and an average girl whom you don’t have the balls to leave because you’re afraid you can’t do better.
You did the “reasonable” thing. You followed the “right path”, but how come your life fucking sucks?
This is not a YOU problem. Its a MAN problem.
Men today are no longer great.
We numb our minds with porn, videogames, TV and whatever else technology has to offer us.
In the meantime:
- Women initiate 70% of all divorces, leaving us devastated, broke and at the mercy of a court system which prioritizes women.
- Men are 5x more likely than women to become drug and alcohol addicts and 9x more likely to be addicted to sex or pornography.
- Men are 4x more likely to commit suicide
- Men are more likely to be sexually abused as children and adults ( thanks to the prison system)
- Heres the interesting thing. With all these stats against men, you’d think they would reach out for help- but no.
- Men are far less likely to reach out for help and support than women.
Let me make one thing clear:
Having a mentor does not imply that you are a weakling, or that you are not capable of doing something for yourself.
Instead, mentorship allows you to grow faster by leveraging the experience and point of view of a person who is already where you want to be.
A person who will hold you accountable, call you out on your bullshit and give you the straight truth without sugar coating it.
Someone who is not afraid to offend you and cares more about your success than your “feelings”.
Muhammed Ali wouldn’t be Ali without Angelo Dundee
Tony Robbins wouldn’t be Tony without Jim Rohn
Neo wouldn’t be Neo without Morpheus
If you think you can make it on your own- you are insane.
Show me a “self-made” man and I will show you a mentor hiding somewhere within his “self-made” story.
If you aspire to a great life, you’re going to need help getting there.
More than anytime in history, men need mentors to guide them towards achieving greatness in life, relationships and business.
Here’s why a mentor is so useful and necessary to you today.
- 1) You need a person who doesn’t just listen,but challenges you to step up:
- 2) Discussing dating, relationships and women with your friends and family is always a failing move:
- 3) Serious Accountability:
- 4) Lack of strong masculine role models while growing up.
- 5) Women subdue your masculinity:
- 6) You are stumbling through the wilderness with no purpose.
- 7) Emotional Freedom
- 8) Going through life without close male friends.
- 9) You believe that strength means being a lone wolf.
- 10) You are no longer going all out
1) You need a person who doesn’t just listen,but challenges you to step up:
A good mentor will call you on your bullshit before your story even begins. A counselor, therapist or psychiatrist will do three things:
a) Give you a prescription for a drug to numb you
b) Listen to you
c) Sit around in a circle and encourage you to share your feelings with other crying men
A lot of men have therapists even though deep down they KNOW they aren’t accomplishing jack-shit.
You know you can bullshit your therapist and the reality is that you actually like doing that because it takes away responsibility from you and you feel like you are “doing something.
With a mentor, you have to step the fuck up. With a counselor, therapist or psychologist, you can keep acting like a bullshitting little child and they’ll let you get away with it.
Let me give you the breakdown:
Counseling: “So you have this minor issue. Lets deal with it and if we can’t, I’ll pass you on to a therapist or a psychiatrist.”
Therapy: “ Lets delve deep into your past… and look what we have here! 12 more issues we can deal with. Here’s a plan of action, no accountability plan and see you next week at the same time.”
Psychiatry: “After analyzing you, I see why therapy didn’t work. You actually have a chemical imbalance. Here’s a pill that will help you feel better. If it doesn’t work, I’ve got a stronger one for you. If that one doesn’t work, there’s this new one that just came out- tests in Russia show that it helped numb vampire’s blood lust.”
Mentor: “I see your challenge. Instead of dwelling on the past, lets move forward and grow with this challenge. I’ve been where you are and I feel you pain. I overcame that very issue without sitting on a shrinks couch for years, taking medication or spending a fortune.”
A coach listens to you- but deeply, beyond your words. He only speaks truth and is only concerned with actions that get you specific results. Results that lead to growth.
During the process, you will discover that overcoming all the challenges you faced in the past are the very things that make you a strong, complete man.
A mentor will not allow you to run or hide from your challenges. He will guide you towards battling them face to face and in the process you will grow in strength and resilience.
It certainly won’t be easy. But it will be worth it.
2) Discussing dating, relationships and women with your friends and family is always a failing move:
If you are aiming to create great relationships with women- relationships bursting with deep intimacy and connection, your friend who has been in a relationship and is now engaged to marry his high school sweetheart is not your best go to.
Your friend who has been a “natural” with women from day 1 has no idea what he is doing- he just does it and women love it.
Your female friends can only tell you to ” just be yourself ” and the right woman will show up.
But you know that your relationships with women is nowhere close to where you wish it to be.
Some of the best mens coaches have a background in dating, pickup and some sort of formalized seduction training.
Over time, that approached usually evolves into healthier method of working with men.
A good mentor will start from the inside.
He will teach you that being accepted by women, being attracted to the women you deserve begins with loving yourself. It begins with developing a healthy self esteem.
After that, you’ll know for the first time, the exact sort of woman that you desire. He’ll coach you into finding out where this woman hangs out, what she enjoys, and the specific aspects of your personality and lifestyle that she finds attractive.
Many men can picture their ideal woman, but they are simply searching for her in the wrong places.
3) Serious Accountability:
Anyone can tell a therapist they will do something, then not do it. Its an entirely different story with a strong, masculine mentor.
Its about being a man. You develop a bond based on mutual respect with a mentor.
Men keep their word- especially to other men whom they respect.
The greatest shame you will feel is when you have let another man down.
Many men have formed a habit of casually not keeping their word. They have no idea what masculine accountability is. Being around strong men who demand accountability is a requirement to grow as a man.
When you have a masculine mentor keeping you accountable, you’re not a weak person. You are a smart man for investing in yourself with a man who will help you become your greatest self.
Weakness is shying away from help because you think it makes you look silly or like a “pussy”. True strength is asking for help where it is needed.
4) Lack of strong masculine role models while growing up.
Perhaps you grew up without a father or, more likely you grew up with a father who wasn’t emotionally present for you. Maybe your father was a great man and did his very best, giving all he knew how to give.
Maybe your struggle with dealing with conflicts and you always try to avoid them, because you don’t want any problems.
Maybe you have no idea what to do with attractive women.
Maybe you’re a submissive nice guy who always find himself seeking men and womens approval.
Maybe you’re the driven alpha male- always hustling, always struggling to validate yourself through hard work, financial and career achievement, nice cars, brand name items and sexy women to mask your deep seated pain.
Maybe you’ve even been described as feminine. There is nothing wrong with that. The masculine must eventually balance it out.
A masculine mentor will take your masculinity to the next level or several levels. He’s demonstrate ( not tell you) the healthy way to be authentic, respected and have all your physical, emotional and spiritual needs met without compromising your values.
5) Women subdue your masculinity:
Women have become mere objects to be conquered sexually. The more attractive the are, the higher on a pedestal you place them. Women know this, and as result they emasculate you and treat you like a kid.
You have only yourself to blame.
A mentor will not only show you how to maintain your masculinity with women, but how to magnify it so that there is no doubt in her mind that she is in the presence of a real man.
6) You are stumbling through the wilderness with no purpose.
When was the last time you ask yourself:
“ Who the fuck am I?”
“What do I truly want for my life?”
You work for someone else who dictates your hours and even your finances.
Someone else tell you that you may have “two weeks off per year”
You drink, watch porn, smoke weed, browse facebook and watch sports to numb the pain of having no idea who the fuck you are.
You buy houses, cars, clothes and electronics to “make you feel good”. Two weeks later, that new device isn’t making you as happy as it did initially- its just another object.
You are a fucking MAN. Men need a mission. Men need something to conquer, something greater than them.
A mentor reignites the fire that died within you. He guides you towards your unique mission. One that you are willing to give your heart and soul to.
7) Emotional Freedom
Men are conditioned to keep their emotions bottled up.
Crying is for “little bitches.”
Showing emotion is seen as weakness.
The reality is that true strength in a man comes from vulnerability. Keeping your emotions deep inside you only cause pain and eventually leads to you releasing them in unhealthy ways.
Men process emotiosn differently from women. A mentor does not fear emotions- neither his nor yours and he will teach you how handle emotions in a masculine way.
8) Going through life without close male friends.
No, not you “boys” that you grab drinks with, but real men who are supportive.
Men are afraid to approach other men and tell them they have a fear or problem because they are afraid that they will be told to “Man up”.
I GUARANTEE you that ANY man who cannot connect with other men is a sad, sometimes depressed and most definitely lonely man.
As a human being, you have a need for connection- without it, you are incomplete and you will wither.
Men are literally killing themselves because the have no outlet. No one talks about it because society does not care to broadcast the statistics of men who take their lives.
That’s why our veterans are shamefully on the streets after giving their sanity for their country. Thats why the male suicide, domestic violence, and sexual assault rates are at an all time high and you will never hear of it.
No One Is Coming and men die because of that.
Where are other men you can share your truth with? Do you have men who will listen and not judge you?
Your close male friends are often the only people you can count on. Yes, even after your family, spouse and even children have deserted you, you close masculine male friends will be the only ones standing by your side in brotherhood.
This is such a powerful fact, yet many men neglect this all important part of their life.
9) You believe that strength means being a lone wolf.
What makes you a man is NOT your ability to figure life out on your own, but instead seeking the help and companionship of others on your journey.
Our egos will cause us to spend time, money and incredible amounts of energy trying to make it on our own because we are afraid of looking weak in the eyes of other men.
Issues that could be solved in moments by seeking the help of someone more experienced go on for years unsolved as you scour the internet, credit card in hand, searching of the magic pill that will solve your problem.
There is nothing in the world that another masculine, experienced man somewhere doesn’t already know.
This is why in ancient times, there were Masters and Disciples. There were craftsmen and apprentices.
When men were men, they knew that they had to learn from one who had gone before them.
These days, Google is most men’s mentor.
When you seek help from a mentor, you are not weak. Your mentor will not judge you or make fun of you. Instead, you gain another man who is serving out HIS purpose, which is- getting you back in touch with your true masculinity- your true power.
10) You are no longer going all out
All we have is this one life and all we do is look at what other are doing and try to keep up.
At one point, maybe you did go all in. Now you’re comfortable. You’re playing small.
When you are going all out and playing the game of life for real, life PLAYS BACK.
Life charges up the masculinity in you. You find yourself getting respect from other men, attraction from women and most importantly, you respect yourself.
You may not know it, but there are mentors out there who live to support other men.
Masculine Mentors lead men to ther authentic selves and empower them to experience freedom, love and fulfillment in their relationships businesses and in their lives
Masculine Mentors keep you in integrity. They make you a man who loves women vulnerably , shamelessly. They help you regain and maintain that fighting spirit that is every mans genetic right.
They unleash the true masculine man within you.
You have two options.
This can be just another blog post to you. You can lie to yourself and tell yourself that this is just more motivational, “rah rah” feel good bullshit.
Or you can take the difficult path. You can put your ego aside and ask for the support you need to become the Man you know you really are.
Yes, its scary. Its scary to go all out, to decide to make something of our lives.
Its not a journey you have to take alone, though.
There are masculine men out in the world who will help you achieve your greatness.
Are you ready to become the greatest man you are capable of becoming?
*The little voice inside of your head might say “not for me” but deep down inside you know you want this. Listen to your heart and take a bold step forward for yourself because the life you want and the man you want to be is on the other side of this fear. Click one of the buttons above and let’s work through your challenges together!