Why Men Should Give Up Porn : Advice from 10 Red Pill Bloggers

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I am delighted to introduce this collaborative post from some of my favorite red pill bloggers. A lot of you guys who visit QuitPornGetGirls are looking to gain control over your porn use.

Today, I’m adding a few different voices to the site.

While they do have slightly varying opinions, they all share the belief that the gender roles they are expected to conform to are intended to benefit women, not themselves.

All 10 of these bloggers answered the question:

Why Should Men Give Up Porn?

 

1) Christian Mcqueen of RealChristianMcqueen.com
Do you feel exhausted all the time? Do you feel lethargic about approaching girls? Do you feel in your gut that women are mystical creatures who are unattainable to you?
If so, it could mean you have a porn problem. Now before you think I’m anti-porn, hold that thought, because I’m actually not. I think porn CAN be okay to a certain extent, however, many men cannot control it, so it becomes a serious problem in their life and it holds them back in areas from dating more attractive women to making more money.

The main issue I have with porn is that it can remove a man’s motivation. Let’s say you spend 30 minutes 4 times per week actively looking at porn and jerking off. That’s 2 HOURS per week and 104 HOURS per year looking at pixels online. Let that sink in for a moment…

What else could you be doing with that 104 HOURS of your life every year? 

Let’s say that you dedicated 2 hours per week to Game. Specifically, to approaching attractive girls in REAL LIFE, flirting, getting their number and setting up dates. Do you think your life would improve? Do you think your sexual partners would increase? Do you think that your overall confidence would skyrocket due to you KNOWING that you have real life options with real life breathing in the flesh cute girls? I think we all know the answer to that.

One concern of guys addicted to porn is that they think they won’t find a girl willing to do in real life what the online girls will do. Let me tell you, there are some very real life freaks out there; but guess what? You have to approach and find them. I can guarantee if you put in the effort you’ll find girls who are eager to make your porn fantasies come to life. And yes, that could even mean consensual bondage play.
If you can control porn, is it that big of a deal? Probably not. However, if you’re dedicated to becoming the best man you can be, then your time is better spent pursuing girls in real life.
This will help you understand that sexy women are very attainable and let me tell you friend, after a romp in the hay with a sexy naked girl, you’ll never look at porn the same way again. It just cannot compare on any level. Try giving your hand a break, even for 30 days. See how you feel afterwards. Odds are you’ll quit porn for good because you’ll see the benefits far outweigh the ‘positives’. As my Uncle Tim would say, “The juice just ain’t worth the squeeze”.
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Christian Mcqueen is one of the most prolific Game bloggers on the internet. A writer, blogger, entrepreneur and cigar lover, he writes success, lifestyle and dating advice. Some hate him, some love him- decide for yourself at realchristianmcqueen.com (* *trigger warnings for porn addicts)
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 2) Jack Donovan of Jack-Donovan.com

“I’m not an advocate of asceticism with regard to sexuality, because the Western approach to sexual asceticism is so often heavily influenced by the neurotic sexual morality of the Abrahamic religions.
But when it comes to pornography, there is a persuasive argument to be made that over-indulgence in porn is a kind of cuckold training — it gets men far too comfortable with the idea of getting off while some other guy bangs who he wants to bang.
It shifts the focus of sex. Something that for men is active and aggressive becomes passive, vicarious entertainment. As with all vicarious entertainment, its is always better, and more masculine, to pursue the real thing. This is as true of sex as it is with watching sports or playing video games.
Any of these things in moderation is probably not the worst thing in the world — but if your life revolves around watching other men play sports or fight wars or have sex, if watching takes up more of your time than living or participating actively…that’s a problem. It’s something to think about.”
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Jack Donovan is the author of The Way of Men, which has become a runaway cult hit with men all over the world who are tired of hearing the mainstream media talk about masculinity as if it were something “toxic” that needed to be “reimagined.” He is a frequent guest on a wide variety of podcasts, and an occasional contributor to the online magazine RADIX. He also runs his own podcast, Start The World, and has interviewed several self-defense experts, survivalists, authors and artists.

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 3) Goldmund from GoldmundUnleashed.com

Porn is a major hindrance if you want to become an expert a reading girls true emotions. If you want to get better at getting laid, or you want to form a strong relationship with a girl, you will have to be able to tap into how they are really feeling. Porn will fuck that up because it is the farthest thing from real seduction, and real human connection. Its like trying to learn how to live a fulfilling life by watching shitty reality shows of dysfunctional rich and famous people–everything is backwards.
Another reason is that for most, there is going to be some sort of guilt-complex associated with watching porn. Not too many people are proud of watching it, and I truly believe the ones who brag about it are hurting the most. I grew up with a very religious background where porn and masturbation were considered sins, and if you partook in them, it was something terrible. This fucked me up a lot because when I did watch porn and jerk-off, I felt like there was a dark secret I was carrying around. That feeling prevented me from actualizing myself and kept me from being able to really open up. It added a lot to my social anxiety.
After a lifetime of study and experimentation with indigenous spirituality, I am convinced that sperm and semen have very sacred properties. The shamans I have met with have described how they have contained their sexual energy throughout their entire lives and channeled it into something much more powerful.
If you want more energy and motivation in life, you have to quit masturbating. Learning about the spiritual side of an orgasm and the benefits of treating your dick with respect revolutionized the way I viewed sex and really gave me reasons to stop viewing porn and masturbating.
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Goldmund lives and aspires to teach men how to live  a life full of adventure, sex, and meaningful pursuits. He overcome deep depression in his 20’s to become a highly motivational writer and authority on Game. Visit his site at GoldmundUnleashed.com
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 4) Axel Page of ShamelessPride.com

Porn is an artificial release, a negative life hack, so to speak. This testosterone release brings instant gratification and tricks you into thinking that your sexual needs are met. This is far from the case. Using porn to get off will never replace the release you get with women. It does nothing to help you with confidence, productivity, social skills, or game. If anything, it subtracts from these areas.
 
For someone who struggles with self-discipline, porn is a recipe for disaster. This addiction gives you an “out” when it comes to approaching and attracting women. It messes with your physical self through potential ED, and gives you unrealistic expectations with women and sex in general. It’s the ultimate mind-fuck because you’re living in a fantasy land where every woman is perfect and willing to have sex immediately. This doesn’t reflect real life.
Not only is porn is the ultimate form of escapism, but quitting it is the ultimate test of self-discipline. It’s an incredibly addicting habit, as Chris alludes to on his site. His step-by-step guidance is invaluable and should be the starting place for any man looking to make a permanent, self-fulfilling change for the better.
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Axel Page is an extremely service minded writer whose main purpose is to help men live a life aligned with their passions. His thoughts reside at www.shamelesspride.com
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 5) Dylan Madden of WayOfTheOlympian.com

At my site Way Of The Olympian you hear me speak of success and making money online. My motivation for writing comes from the need for guidance and information that our world needs. Our world has large amounts of people that demand answers but only a handful of people have stepped forward to actually help.

Chris emailed me the other day and told me about a great article he was coming out with. He wanted to have my opinion on why men should give up Porn. To be honest I’ve never really thought about the topic.

After checking out Chris’s site I was blown away by the amount of time he has put into the topic of giving up porn. I decided to write up a quick piece.

Here is why men should give up Porn:

  • Porn drains you of your Creative Energy
  • Porn drains you of Testosterone
  • Porn causes Erectile Dysfunction if you do it daily
  • Porn gives you unrealistic expectations of sex
  • Porn can cause emotional problems that will affect your relationships
  • Porn causes you to not seek actual girls to sleep with

There are dozens of other effects that Porn will have on your life. The above are the ones that stand out the most to me. If you are a Man you must give up Porn.

Instead of beating your meat, go out and find a girl. When you find a girl you will be able to live whatever fantasy you may possibly have.

Well that is my take on why men should give up Porn. Chris is dedicated to helping you and there are other sites out there that really do want to help you.

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Dylan may be the youngest contributor to this post, but he is by no means the least prolific. A transparent and honest self-improvement writer, his site wayoftheolympian.com  is one to watch.

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6) Sonny Arvado of StrengthBySonny.com

There are many reasons why men should give up pornography. Lack of energy. Potential erectile dysfunction. Awkwardness around real women. The list goes on… However, my personal biggest reason focuses on one thing: ADVANTAGE.

The majority of guys in today’s society watch porn. Everyone knows this. In doing so, many guys simply do not have the discipline to eliminate this activity from their daily routine. The guys who are able to give up pornography altogether give themselves an incredible advantage. They give themselves an advantage because they are exercising discipline in their ability to refrain from an activity that most guys cannot go one day without doing. In the long run, this reflects in both a mental and physical edge over the competition.

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Sonny runs strengthbysonny.com a fitness and mindset blog for men that is based on three core principles:

1. Versatility.

2. A positive mindset.

3. The long-term goal of helping others accomplish their goals.

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7)  Seth Rose of MasculineBooks.com

When guys first start watching porn they never consider the harmful consequences. Yet, years down the road they find themselves masturbating frequently to hardcore fetishes. Even worse is that they develop trouble connecting with women in real life.
I finally realized I had a porn addiction after discovering ‘No Fap’. After relapsing a couple times I was finally able to break free. Within a couple months my anxiety went down, and my confidence and free time went up.
Sure, watching porn is fun and entertaining, but what is this short-term pleasure doing to help you in your life? Nothing. Watching porn habitually is a time-sucking and soul-sucking activity. Plus, ditching porn allows you to build powerful relationships and have great sex with amazing women. What more could you ask for?
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Seth is an up and coming blogger who runs a site with one of the most comprehensive review of masculine books.
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 8) Aaron Clarey

My views on porn are mixed in that I don’t go support wholly either of the primary “do” or “don’t” stances on porn.  In short I am against it in that it is a huge waste of time.  Nothing gets done and while taking in the occasional picture of titties may be a brief break to your day, if you slip into 30 minutes, an hour, 3 hours, then you’re just limiting yourself and your potential.
So in general porn is a bad thing.
However, you can waste even more time chasing after women in the hopes of having sex with them.  I remember when I was 17 trying to make out with a girl for 6 hours, and this was after spending 2 hours with her on a date.
Did I get laid?
No.
What did I do?
Waste and entire work day and three days’ pay on a girl.
Here porn actually helps in that if you have the discipline to simply “run one out” you can jettison your lower head’s constant demand “you must have sex” and simply get back to things that matter in life.
So in general principle I am against porn, but if you use it as a way to get rid of your sexual urges you can save yourself a lot of time and agony trying to chase girls who simply are not going to give it up.
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Aaron Clarey is an economist and self-professed asshole.His site features great economic research and philosophy. Check him out http://captaincapitalism.blogspot.com/
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 9) David De Las Morenas of HowToBeast.com

 

There is simply no upside to watching porn. But there are a number of very real and significant downsides.
Sure, jerking it to a pornstar doing her thing will give you a brief high, but how much do you actually enjoy it? And how do you feel afterwards? If you’re like most guys the answer is tired, lazy, and slightly guilty.
Look, I’ve been there. So I know the compulsive urges that can keep you clicking between tabs like a madman. But think about it this way: the best case scenario is that you waste a bunch of time. The worst case scenario? You develop erectile dysfunction and some pretty fucked up mindsets about how the dating and mating processes actually work.
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David de las Morenas is a popular men’s self improvement blogger. He run the website howtobeast.com.  Charisma, confidence, fitness and style are just a few of my the many areas that David excels in.
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10) X Splat

 I rarely watch porn.  It does not take me any discipline to not watch it, as it’s simply my long established habit.
Sometimes I’ll watch porn with a lover while we are fucking.  Very rarely I’ve watched it during a long dry spell, and it eased some loneliness.
I prefer to keep real lovers.  I don’t feel like a complete and properly alive man unless I can share love and sex with women who are also into me.  I like to maintain a very active sex life.  Porn is nowhere near close to sharing real intimacy and intense ecstatic pleasure with a lover.  It’s not anywhere near the same category of experience.  Porn is not sex.
I don’t find porn satisfying.  In a way it’s the opposite of satisfying.  You get to see something you want, from a distance, but you can’t touch it.  Voyeurism is not participatory, and so inherently includes a want – a type of pain built right in.  It is not a facsimile to sex, and is only sexual in that it causes sexual arousal.  Sex is participatory, and sex is a sexual conversation.  It can’t be done alone.  Masturbation and voyeurism are nowhere anywhere near what sex is.
Sex is so important to me that it is as close a spiritual experience as anything can be.  It is my religion.  It’s that important to me.  I regularly take time to practice chi-kung so that my I’ll be sensitive to feeling strong sexual energies.  I pay a lot of attention to building and maintaining strong relationships so that the quality of sex will remain at a fervent passionate peak, for each session.
Porn only gets in the way of what is important about sex.  It is a substitute that deadens a person to even remembering what sex really is.
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Xsplat is a highly prolific expatriate red pill blogger with some deep insights into masculinity. Check him out at https://xsplat.wordpress.com/
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  • It’s OK. I forgive you for the oversight.

    http://therationalmale.com/2011/11/17/the-pheromonal-beta/

  • Kenny James

    This is an issue that cuts close to me. Agreed, definitely would have loved to hear what Rollo has to say on this subject.

  • John mcgraw

    A very helpful post, and really opened my eyes to my problem. I’ll contend with the opinions on religion in this piece, as this reinforced the idea of marrying early in life for a religious person to have that real connection with a woman and not images on a screen. Religious people should also not overreact to people who confide in them or turn out to be users of porn, and get over the stigma and taboos of talking about it. Sadly a lot of religious people are affected by this but never seek support because of the unspeakability of this topic. Good work on this site, thank you so much.

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