Quitting the Porn Rollercoaster

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What your mind obsessively dwells on, your body will eventually act upon

Remember your first  roller coaster ride?

Remember the “clank, clank, clank” sound as the roller coaster climbed slowly higher and higher toward the peak of the rails… remember the trepidation you felt when you realized how high it was actually going.

Its seemed  like it was taking forever to get to the top.   That “Why the fuck did I get on this ride?” feeling as your anticipation grows. Your breath being taken away as it suddenly dropped , your balls an unwilling victim to gravity.

It was exciting and scary all at once.

When you got to the bottom and had barely regained your breath, you were going back up again for the next ride. There were curves and  dips.. sometimes you were upside down, some times you thought you were going to literally fall out of the ride.

The overall result was a cocktail of feelings- excitement, fear and anticipation among others.

Some people who get on the ride decide its their first and last time ever getting on one. For others, its a whole new world of excitement and anticipation for the next ride.

Do you remember the first time you looked at porn? How did you feel? How did that first time experience morph into the rollercoaster ride that you’re on now?

Unfortunately, getting off this rollercoaster is easier said than done. At QuitPornGetGirls, our system uses three guidelines to keep you off the ride. Of course, when we get you off the ride, its your choice as to whether you’d like to get on for a few more- most most guys who get off are done riding for life.

The three guidelines are:

  1. Learn:a) Learn everything you can about the challenges you are trying to gain control over.b) Learn EVERY tool and technique that will help you successfully face and conquer the challenges that have interrupted your life.
  2. Believea) Develop self-confidence, hope and self belief that you will eventually find a way to overcome the challenges you have with sex and pornography.b) Build a strong foundation for your belief. You are building a belief so powerful, that it will never be challenged . A belief that that you will overcome your porn use eventually and not only bring peace to your life, but become you very best self.
  3. Take Actiona) Action. There are specific steps that must be taken in order to reach your eventual goal of living a porn free, stress free, happy life.b) Your Action will be most beneficial and effective when you focus on the behaviors and tools you LEARN on QPGG and come to BELIEVE in. LEARNING, supported by BELIEF, becomes easier because you begin to experience specific behavior changes.

I want you guys to really understand this, so that you can quit spending years trying to find a solution.

You need all three.

Having belief is good, but this will not take you all the way.

Taking ACTION is amazing, but if it is not focused on effective behaviors you have LEARNED, and as a result developed a strong BELIEF in, then you will only end up defeated and discouraged.

Despite the fact that I’ve shown you three guidelines, guess what? You’re still not going to follow them!

Why?

Well, there are a ton of reasons, but I’ll share the ten most common ones with you:

  1. Fear:The fear of losing a relationship by telling someone your problem.
  2. Procrastination:Constantly putting off dealing with your problem. Working on less important goals. For instance- trying to get dates with women or pick up women, when you watch porn seven days a week. Remember- Quit Porn First, then Get Girls.
  3. Self-hate: “ I hate myself when I have thoughts about doing these nasty sexual things to this woman.” Self hate is loathing yourself for what you think, say and do. Its rough, because it feeds your FALSE beliefs about yourself.
  4. Self-doubt: “Can a person like me ever be trusted?” Distrusting yourself and your abilities. Believing you are incompetent and questioning your motives?
  5. Pride: “I can do this all by myself, and I don’t need the help of anyone else.” Deciding that you don’t need help from others.
  6. Shame: “Only a bad person would have such a nasty thought!” Believing you are a bad person because of a thought, or behavior you have participated in.
  7. Indifference: “It doesn’t really matter if I do it or not.” Lacking interest or enthusiasm in coping with a challenge.
  8. Rationalization: “It isn’t that big of a deal.” Excusing behavior that you think you have better control over.
  9. Discouragement: “I’m probably never going to overcome this problem; look at al the times I’ve tried and failed.”
  10. Inability to forgive yourself: “I don’t know if I can ever be forgiven for watching porn/cheating on my partner.”

 

What are the barriers you have and how have they impacted you and your family? Share with us in the comments, please!

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