10 Keys To Charisma With Women



noun, plural charismata

[kuh-riz-muh-tuh] (Show IPA)
Theology. a divinely conferred gift or power.
a spiritual power or personal quality that gives an individual influenceor authority over large numbers of people.
the special virtue of an office, function, position, etc., that confers or is thought to confer on the person holding it an unusual ability for leadership, worthiness of veneration, or the like.

Charisma is one of the main tools in the arsenal of a man who wants success with women. One of the main way you express charisma is through your speech- the way you converse with a woman. You should aim to effortlessly create chemistry, desire and positive feelings in a woman while simultaneously building rapport and trust.

There is no “clown game” here. No effeminate behaviors, and certainly no ass kissing.

You muzzle your ego, you need to be right, you penchant to create controversy and let the woman feel wanted, feel smart and feel important.

The most important aspects of Charsimatic speech are understanding what NOT to say and how to say things.
Before you get worried that there’s a lot to keep in mind when developing Charisma, let me say this:

When in doubt, do three things:

1) Be a good listner
2) Use humor when you feel pessimistic about the conversation
3) Check your ego

Without further ado, here are QuitPornGetGirls 15 keys to Charisma with Women

1) No One Upping:

Oh, how guilt I am of this. When a woman shares a story about some dramatic event at work, or an accomplishment of hers- let her have it fully.
She is sharing it with you because she enjoys the feelings that occurred during the event and more importantly, she enjoys sharing it.

Congratulate her. As more questions about how she feels and get the nitty gritty details. Yes, she may go on and on about it, but the point is that she wants to smart and important. Bear with it.

She isnt sharing the story to give you material to one up her and tell her how even more incredible your day was. If she tells you she saw a beautiful house today, smile and ask about it. Don’t tell her about the nicer one you saw. Get the details, let her feel observant and smart.

Men sometimes feel a strong urge to relate similar experiences- its considered part of normal, polite conversation. But “normal” men don’t quit porn and they certainly don’t get laid on a consistent basis.
The problem is that this urge is motivated by our ego and leads to us showing how our world is bigger, better, more exciting and colorful than anything she could ever describe.

Your world is superior. Therefore, she is inferior.

It make you look insecure.

Women aren’t attracted to insecure men.

2) Don’t Be Cheap:

I’m not talking about the “whether or not to pay on a date” situation. I couldn’t care less whether you pay or not- you should have your shit togetherto th epoint that paying for a date never hurts your wallet or your value. I’m talking about being a pricing know-it-all.

If a girl bought a new car and got charged higher than normal, or she ordered something onoine at an overpriced rate, its none of your damn business.

Don’t rail on her for how she got ripped off and start spouting all the places where she could have purchased her service for a cheaper rate.

Again, you come across as being judgemental and cheap-not helpful and knowledgeable. When you imply that a woman is wrong, she will hold it against you.

You are superior. Therefore she is inferior.

Therefore you will not get laid.

Doesn’t matter if you work in the field where she overpaid for a product or service.- if she wanted your opinion, she would ask you.

You have no idea why she “overpaid”. Maybe they deliver overnight or for free. Maybe all her girlfriends shop there. Maybe she’s banging the car salesman and gets free servicing and a loaner vehicle everytime she goes to the dealership.

Yes, women do get ripped off my unethical men. But bear in mind that if she is attractive and chooses to use her femininity to get a discounted rate, she’d easily beat whatever price your know-it-all ass could get her.

Don’t be cheap.

3) Be Respectful:

Whenever you find yourself in a discussion concerning mutual acquaintances, family or friends-always demonstrate respect in your speech.
Do not be judgemental.
Tact goes a long way.
My favorite response to a story about a friend who is full of crap is: “She’s quite…interesting.”


“Jen seems like she doesn’t do the “fitness thing”. She probably doesnt have the time since she’s always busy checking out restaurants with her gang and reviewing them on Yelp.” (Fatty)

“Your friend Brittany does seem to date a lot of guys these days. Maybe she’s just searching for something her parents couldn’t give her.” (Slut.The bad kind.)

Why do you need to show tact and respect despite your true feelings? Its simple. If you join her in bashing her friends, she will naturally assume that you do the same behind her back.

Treat her with respect as well. This means NOT treating her as one of the guys. Doesn’t matter is she loves football, shooting, videogames and martial arts. She is a woman and still wants to feel desired and sexy.

Respect means reining in the compliments and dropping them when required.

Don’t gush over her.

4) Don’t talk about ex girlfriends:

This is a no-brainer. Women want to be the center of attention- there cannot be anyone in the past or future threatening her position.
When you speak about your ex girlfriends, she will assume that you still think about her and that there is a chance you could get back together. Even if there is no logical way that would happen-she will still feel emotional about the prospect.
Don’t talk shit about your ex either- she will assume that you will do the same if she’s no longer with you.

5) Absolutely avoid sensitive issues:

Stay away from all belief systems. Religion, politics, feminism, environmentalism, vegeterianism, and so on.
You will be tested on your belief system, but you should stay away because you never know which side of the issue she supports.

You should never deny your own position on an issue to change it to suit hers.

When you opinion conflict- especially if you are still getting to know her, you set the stage for a winner and a loser. Right and wrong. If she ends up feeling wrong, she get emotional and defensive.

Emotional and defensive women don’t feel like dropping their panties for you.

Some women are almost militant about their beliefs and will actively seek to find out your opinion. If you haven’t slept with her yet- don’t tell her anything.

My favorite response:

There are two things I believe should be private- religion and politics” or (insert whatever politically correct issue she’s digging to find out about)

You aren’t any more of a “man” for stating that you hate feminism and vegetarians. After you sleep with her or build more comfort in whatever sort of relationship you have- feel free to express your opinion.

6) Be Cool:

Yelling, impatience and reactiveness destroy your chances with women.

Don’t yell- speak from your diaphragm and think before you open your mouth.

If she’s trying to get a reaction out of you. Don’t react. Smile, slow it town and use humor to diffuse the tension.

Most situations with women can be diffused by non reaction. You don’t do drama.

7) Be Happy:

Women say they want a sense of humor and personality. Don’t beat yourself up trying to figure that out.

Just figure out how YOU can be happy in your life on your own.

Create the lifestyle you want, do the thing you want to do. Pick friends your enjoy, hobbies you enjoy, and life your days fully. When you are creating the life that will make you happy, you will automatically take yourself less seriously and become more humorous, develop your personality positively; becoming the sort of man they desire aka “sense of humor and personality guy”

Being happy and having a good time is attarctive to women. It demonstrates self confidence and control which implies success and status.

8) Speak Intelligently:

When was the last time you looked up a word in the dictionary? I read somewhere that the average American has an eight grade reading comprehension level.
Most people never open a dictionary or read and educational book after graduating college or high school.

Improving your vocabulary will help you in business and with women. You don’t have to sound like your trying hard by dropping bombastic words all over the place, but you must sound like you have a clue about what you’re discussing.

If you are not familiar with a topic- don’t try and act like a know it all. Keep you mouth shut and if you open it, do so only to ask questions and educate yourself.

9) K.I.SS:

Keep It Simple, Stupid.
I have literally lost women by running my mouth. It’s unattractive and smothering.

If you have a story to tell, be able to tell it in 90 seconds to 3 minutes. Short and sweet.

Women love mystery- not the man that reveals everything about himself in a 10 minute story.

10) Develop Your Eye Contact:

Eye contact is about presence and intensity. We live in a time where people just pull out their phones and start swiping through instagram if they don’t find you interesting.

Focus on a woman when you speak to her and treat her as you would an intellectual equal. Doesn’t matter if she isnt.

The majority of men brag about themselves, never listen, check out every chick that walks by and completely miss the nuances of her body language.


Be different- no puppy dog eyes, no glaring, stalker eyes, just consistent presence and attention.

Honestly, these are the basics to charismatic conversation. I’m guilty of a few, but I’ve worked on most. If you’re lacking in any of them, I highly recommend working on it till it becomes a part of you.

These keys help not just with women, but in business as well.

Check out this great speech by Julian Treasure on how to get people to listen to you when you speak.

What are your thoughts? What other charismatic elements do you use in conversation? Share in the comment section below.

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  • Sterling

    Yes, these thing are so true and nice to see a complete set of rules to follow. I screwed up number five royally the other night with a beautiful girl. She was really interested in me then later asked me what religion i was. I told her i would tell her after i got to know her better. Then throughout the night she persisted and wanted to know my religious beliefs. I finally told her i believe in god, but I don’t subscribe to christianity or any other religion. Then she started going off about how “she could never date a guy who wasn’t a Christian but that we could be friends.” My first fuck up was telling her beliefs then after that i got kinda pissed off that she was digging me then pulls that 180 on me. Then i really screwed up by telling her it was ridiculous that she would discriminate against me for not seeing the world the exact same way as she did. Two test failed miserably! Great job Sterling!! Between that and a couple other speed bumps and home alone i went! Haha Ive been kicking myself in the ass all week about it. My worst game in years, but i did learn from it, so i guess there is at least an upside to it.

    • Lol- bro, we’ve all had that experience!
      Now you know. Maintaining your frame that you do not discuss these issues will only increase attraction 🙂
      And great to hear from you again!

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