4 Self Destructive Behaviors That Keep You Stuck On Porn

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To overcome porn addiction, there needs to be an emotional change. A paradigm shift in the way we live our lives. Porn addiction changes you brain and as a result, your entire emotional makeup is altered for the worse.

I’ve outlined the top four self destructive behaviors that lead to multiple relapses, loss of self esteem and eventual defeat by porn addiction.

 

  1. Your Porn Addiction:To understand this, you must accept two important facts:

    Firstly, addiction changes the brain. Its a fact. You may think you have a really bad porn habit, when in reality you have a full blown addiction.

    Most of us associate addiction with drugs, or alcohol. We may not use either, and assume ourselves to be safe from addiction. Porn addiction then becomes something that happens to “other people”.

    Secondly, you never know you have an addiction until you try to quit. Porn addiction works in a sophisticated way that keeps you in the dark about its presence until its too late. The human brain is great at avoiding accepting addiction using rationalization, minimization and other denial techniques. Porn addiction also knows you as well as you know yourself! It knows your weaknesses and fears, it has access to your full range of intelligence, cunning and knowledge.

    How do you defeat an adversary that is as powerful and in many cases more powerful than you?

    Acceptance. You accept the reality that you face a foe that you cannot defeat without fully acknowledging its power over you.Yes, its counter intuitive and that’s why it leads to the second reason that you’re still addicted to porn.

  2. Ignorance:90% of everyone who tries to quit porn relapses in the first year. I didn’t take a survey to figure that out and I don’t need one. Hundreds of emails land in my inbox monthly, expressing frustration with relapses. Most of these men never acknowledge, accept and understand their ADDICTION. I struggled with porn for over a decade and I relapsed hundreds of times. It wasn’t until I realized and accepted the fact that I had an addiction and treated it as such that I experienced a huge paradigm shift and began to experience success in recovery.

    Hanging on to presumptions that addiction happens to “other people” and being too proud to admit your addiction will set you back YEARS in your recovery. Realize that the more progressive and strong your recovery from porn use is, the more sophisticated the approach used by addiction to derail your success. You need 100% commitment to attack your pornography addiction.

  3. Emotional Dependency:What does emotional dependency have to do with sabotaging your recovery from porn addiction? A whole lot, actually. You may never escape your porn addiction if you do not fix this problem first. Dependence on other people to provide you with, respect, security or prestige leads to emotional instability. Here’s a quick test to find out if you’re emotionally dependent:

    Ask yourself: “Are my feelings easily hurt in relationships?” and “Do I consider myself a highly sensitive person?

    If the answer to these two questions are “yes”, then brother- you’re emotionally dependent.

    Emotional dependency is self destructive because you allow other people to define your reality. You become highly reactive in relationships because you’ve made the other person more important than they should be. The higher the pedestal you place the person on, the more likely you are to destroy the relationship.

    The more emotionally dependent you are, the weaker you are as a man. I’ve never met an emotionally dependent man who successfully overcame their porn addiction.

  1. Self Hate:The most insidious of these self destructive behaviors has to be self hate. Most of us have an idealized image of ourselves that we’ve built up over the years. We believe we should act and look a certain way, and have certain levels of achievement in our life. Most of these expectations filter into our minds unconsciously. As we build up this idealized image, we develop a lot of pride in this image. Of course, the image and reality are two different things, so when we don’t live up to the expectations of this image, we begin to hate ourselves.

    Self hate is the number one factor keeping you locked in porn prison. When you hate yourself, you have no reason to give up porn, to improve your relationships with women, or to experience peace in your life. You may try to quit porn, but all your attempts will be futile because you WANT your “undeserving”, “underachieving” self to suffer for not being all it should be.

 

In our journey to free ourselves from porn addiction we all experience the above mentioned self destructive behaviors to some degree. I urge you to ask yourself which of these behaviors resonate with you the most and begin to immediately eradicate them from your life.

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