How Quitting Porn Helps You Become More Social

 

 

 

I know a lot of you men out there wonder whether your persistent social anxiety issues stem from protracted porn use. I pondered the same as well especially when I began the process of quitting porn and realized that my social anxiety decreased significantly. There are no studies that exist which prove a correlation between porn and social anxiety, however many men I have worked with have reported changes that strongly suggest a relationship does exist.

When I was struggling to quit porn for ten years, there were very few scientific resources that addressed porn addiction. Most resources were of the religious variety and while I know men that benefited from these methods, they never worked for me. In my desperation to quit, I experimented with everything at my disposal for a few years.

One of the experiments I tried was with my sales team in a controlled environment. Every year, for three months, my direct sales team made up of mostly guys, moved to rural parts of the country to sell our products directly to our clients.These were our “gravy” months when we earned the most income. We usually lived without internet or cable access for those three months. More importantly, we worked 75-80 hours per week during those months. Since we sold directly aka door to door, we had to be in a peak social and charismatic condition everyday to meet our clients. Men being men, when you put them to work for 80 hours a week without any technology save their company phones which don’t have data capabilities, they’ll find ways to relieve sexual tension.

I had just read the chapter on sexual transmutation from Napoleon Hills “Think and Grow Rich” on the recommendation of two very successful millionaire executives in our company. Basically, Hill states that from studying hundreds of successful men, he found that the most successful practiced abstinence and focused most of their sexual energy towards creative and business endeavors especially in their twenties. Motivated by this, I quit masturbating for two weeks-a huge accomplishment for me back then. By the 6th day of the week, I had already broken my best weeks sales record. I had my best ever week sales-wise the next week. Then I relapsed and my sale dropped back to what they were previously.

My sales team was curious as to how I could break my record two weeks simultaneously and do it with seemingly effortlessly.They also wanted to break through their sales threshold and make more money. I shared my experiment with them and urged all of them to try it out for two weeks. The result? In those two weeks, we broke the company’s 14 year sales record. Sales reps reported feeling very sexually frustrated , yet charged with energy when faced with clients. Because they had no other release for this sexual energy build up, it transformed itself into charisma, confidence and persuasiveness. Since then, part of our training explicitly advises male sales reps to avoid masturbation and orgasms during this three month period to the best of their ability. Unconventional, but it works.

The “transformation” that affected my sales reps could be compared to a situation where you are seducing a woman . There is sexual tension in the air and you are more bold and sexual- going in for the kiss and escalating boldly to sex. Its a primal desire that overtakes you and makes you express your desire so boldly,so confidently, which in turn, turns her on. How passionate would you be if you hadn’t masturbated or watched porn for two weeks to a month? What of if you just masturbated and came three times two hours before your date?

You confidence around women when your quit porn will be evident as will your sexual nature. Too many guys who get put the “friendzone” end up there because their social anxiety makes them pansies who have lost the ability to telegraph their sexual intent to an attractive woman. On a side note- a woman you are sexually interested in should never feel comfortable around you till she senses your sexual potential as a man.

If your social anxiety problems began in your teens, it could either be porn use or just a phase you were going through. One of the best ways to find out is to try quitting for a few weeks and observing if there is any improvement in your social anxiety. What research does tell us is that low dopamine levels correlate with increased depression and lack of social confidence. When you use porn, it invariable leads to a reduction in dopamine receptors in your brain. When the production and transportation of dopamine in your brain is unbalanced, it affects your social conditioning. Basically, porn hijacks the part of your brain that derives pleasure from social contact.

If you’ve tried quitting porn, yet still experience no improvements with your social anxiety, you absolutely have to get proactive about taking care of this problem. There are several resources out there. I  recommend Sean Coopers Social Anxiety System as a good starting point.

Its terrible waste of life experience to suffer from social anxiety. As a man,I can assure you it will negatively impact your career and your relationships with women. Opportunities that will alter the course of your life will constantly pass you by and your overall experience has a human being will be mediocre.
Take the necessary steps today to quit porn and deal with your social anxiety decisively.

 

 

  • Mark Minter

    Listen, I can speak of this from personal experience. For a long time, I had thought porn was the great equalizer in dealing with women, that it was a liberator. Then I stopped looking at it. It was mostly because my computer had gotten a virus from one of the sites and I had to rebuild everything. One day on one of the Manosphere sites there was a post with a request for comments about things you should start doing NOW. One of the guys wrote “Stop looking at porn” and gave a website. I went to the site and it described guys with ED that were addicted to porn, a 20 year old that had started when he 12 and couldn’t get erections was one of the classic examples. No erections at 20!! Can you imagine? And I had bad ED before for really like 10 years, Viagra didn’t work and maybe Levitra might work. I had just thought it was age and lifestyle. I smoke. But since I had stopped looking at it months before, I had begun to regain normal erectile function again. I had attributed it to other lifestyle changes, No alcohol, no pot. But when I read the symptoms described on the site, I realized that it was the porn that was causing it. The site called it the PMO cycle, porn, masturbation, orgasm. The men barely get erections and only orgasm because their hand is intelligent enough to coax one and they are super juiced visually because of the porn. I started putting 2 and 2 together. When did this rash of ED begin to sweep across America with all these Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis commercials on TV? Exactly when the internet began to penetrate homes.

    So if you are having ED problems, especially during coitus with a women and soft erections when masturbating to porn, you need to quit. You need to quit anyway.

    I can’t speak to the claims that quitting porn can help your game, but I can attest that porn viewing eventually will lead to erectile dysfunction and better to stop now before it does. After 90 days of not viewing porn you will begin to see harder and longer erections. Mine have returned. Back in the porn days for me, my erections were a full inch shorter than they had been when I was younger. And now they are equally as long as they ever were and I am 57 years old. And I smoke two packs a day, Now I have “wood” in the morning when I awaken until I urinate just like when I in my 20s. And I have made no changes in exercise, in diet. I just stopped looking at porn and that is what I attribute to the recovery of normal function. There is no other explanation.

    Eventually porn is going to cost you something, a relationship, ED, social withdrawal. Stop looking at it. I am not moralist. I could give a crap about morality or whether it is degrading to women or whether it gives you unreal expectations sexually from women. I don’t care. But it will eventually fry some programming up there in your head that is not supposed to be supercharged visually like porn does and screw up some wiring.

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