Think You Quit Porn? Think Again

While the dangers of porn are still not recognized by society at large, its most deadly effects are known most intimately by those who have truly embarked on the arduous journey to a porn free life.

I’m one of those. It took me eleven years of trial and failure to finally quit. The truth is, I believed I had quit porn many times in those eleven years, but likeĀ  running water, my addiction always found another outlet to escape.

Many men and especially their partners believe that they have conquered their porn addiction,but the sad truth is that many mens brains have been so irrevocably changed by porn that they seek stimulation elsewhere.For instance, a man who has been desensitized by porn to the point that he only gets off to transsexual porn, will frequently transition from videos to erotica involving transsexuals. In many more cases, men who have quit porn will actually seek out transsexuals to act out their fantasies with on escorts websites.

There’s a lot of rationalization that goes with this behavior such as “I’m just trying this out to see if I’m really attracted to transsexuals.” and “Its just a one time thing-I’ll never do it again.I just want to get it over with and I’ll quit”. This is all bullshit rationalization. Let me tell you from personal experience, once you cross the line of reality and fantasy, you’ll cross it again and again.

I remember being off porn and masturbation for a year and still visiting escort sites and reading erotica. One relapse later , a long binge , and I was in an even deeper hole than when I’d started.

Worse still is the addicts expertise at hiding the new outlet for their addiction, especially from their partners. Ladies, if your man says he’s quit porn, you must realize that there will be numerous outlets for the addiction- women in their underwear, erotica, browsing escort sites, and the number one site where porn addicted men congregate- craigslist. Craigslist and its connection to porn is a phenomenon that deserves its own post. Rest assured, if you are a man and your porn addiction is advanced, you’ve probably visited the site and if you are the partner of a sex addict, all you need to do is visit the m4m personals on craigslist in your city to learn how deep the rabbit hole goes.

Take the advice of a man who tried and failed countless times for over a decade.

1) When you quit porn, do a reboot for 30 to 90 days and don’t have sex, don’t masturbate ,don’t read erotica, and dont read Maxim.

2) Your secret email account. Delete all its contents, then delete it.

3) Tell your partner that you may be compelled to find an outlet to “release” .Have them hold you accountable.

4) When you make your decision to quit porn, make it strong and unbreakable. When I truly quit forever, it was quit or die.

 

If you’re out there reading this and you know that you’ve told yourself or your partner that you quit, but you’re still involved in some of the activities described above on the down low, its time to stop lying to yourself and complete steps 1-4. Please. Your happiness depends on it.

 

  • Solid advice. Getting girls comes from within, unfortunately that is also where porn takes hold. Two things cannot occupy the same place at the same time.

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