Attracting Women While Quitting Porn

Literature and resources that help men quit porn addiction offer a lot of paths and solutions to men as they begin the journey of breaking the chains of pornography. I’ve read/ watched/participated in piles of them and have never some across a single resource devoted to helping men quit pornography that addresses their need to have sex with multiple women or attract a quality woman into their lives in detail. Men are hardwired to enjoy variety in their sexual partners. A newer, younger, different woman from their current partner will always lead to more arousal. Pornography exploits this basic neurological fact by overloading the brain with multiple women in multiple arousing scenarios of infinite novelty.

Porn or no porn, men want multiple women. There are a lot of men that want a fulfilling monogamous relationship with one woman,but porn interferes with that goal. Quitting porn without giving men a reliable and healthy means of attracting women leads to a lot of frustrated men whose only choice is usually some form of suppressing their sexual desires till it becomes a new habit or just suppressing it indefinitely.

The term “Get Girls” in the title of this website means mastery over the skill of seducing women. Its more “develop into a man who is attractive to women as opposed to the “get women through some gimmick or technique” that prevalent throughout the internet.

One of the saddest side effects of the current porn culture and easy accessibility of pornographic material is the destruction of male masculinity. The total emasculation of men. We live in a society where it is acceptable for men to spend hours stroking their penises to the images of people performing unrealistic sex. Back in the day, before porn was as readily available as it is today, men who didn’t have the skills to attract women were more likely to go out, take risks and talk to the women they found attractive. They went to bars, they chased women, they got laid. Yes, men are still getting laid today,but there’s a new breed of men. They are the men who have spent so many hours watching porn, spilled so much of their seed onto Kleenex that they have absolutely no desire to hook up with women. Men who would rather sit in front a screen and fulfill their fantasies than go out and find them in real life. Men who’s idea of sex has been warped by the sexually utopian world of PornHub and Brazzers.

Understand this: quitting porn equals more women in your life, if you so desire. Have you tried not masturbating for 7 days and seen what happens to your level of arousal? The hornier you are, the greater your desire to have sex with a real woman. Unfortunately, when you are emasculated by porn, you find it easier to turn on your computer and masturbate, than actually go out and find a woman who is willing and enthusiastic about having sex with you,based on your skills, your status,you looks,or a combination of the three. One of the key tenets of masculinity is the ability to be independent. Pornography is dependence on a sexual scene that does not involve you to fulfill your biological needs. A real man has sex with real women. An emasculated man watches other people have sex and masturbates due to his lack of an ability to meet and attract real women. By doing so, he further reinforces the characteristics which prevent him from having sex,be they a lack of courage, an unattractive lifestyle, or negative beliefs.

When I masturbated regularly, I frequently felt a sense of shame after I came and all the chemical reactions in my body had for the most part, subsided. This occurred after I had made my first decision to quit. Psychologists, religious leaders, scientists and researchers all have their theories as to why men feel a sense of shame after they ejaculate from pornographic stimulation. Well, I figured out my own theory. I felt ashamed because I knew that I was being less of a man than I was supposed to be. Not because my parents and upbringing had guilted me into being ashamed of ejaculating, not because religion threatened hell fire and brimstone,not because I had moved from hardcore sex to transvestites banging midgets. It was simply and unequivocally because I was demeaning my masculinity and taking the easy way out. I was letting myself down, as a man. Letting my discipline slip. Endangering my manhood,my sense of identity and my self esteem.

Healthy self esteem is a requirement in attracting women of quality and cultivating healthy relationships. I’ve met many men with low self esteem that attract a fair amount of women,and get laid consistently. What I’ve never seen is men with low self esteem in healthy, happy relationships. You owe it to yourself to do whatever is necessary to regain yourself esteem and date the woman or women you desire.

  • Anon

    This is an interesting idea but I feel like it is only a piece of a larger discussion. Can you separate porn addiction from sex addiction? I would argue that these behaviors are deeply intertwined. Having more sexual partners and watching less porn is not necessarily ideal when considering sexual transmitted diseases, time and cost considerations, and the ethical/ emotional dilemmas present in seducing multiple women. I think the overarching issue is the objectification of the female body. Popular culture is programming men and young boys to be sex fiends. Females are over sexualized. A more balanced portrayal of femininity would go a long way. I don’t know the exact answer, just some thoughts…

    • Chris Haven

      Ahh… some good thoughts there 🙂 Knowing how to cultivate healthy relationships and as a result having more sexual partners could good antidote to porn use for some men.STDs, time and cost considerations depend on the individuals lifestyle, the same goes for ethical and emotional dilemmas. There are many,many men,who have no qualms maintaining multiple sexual relationships in an authentic way.Men will desire women regardless of the objectification of the female body and a more balanced portrayal of femininity…well, thats a can of worms.We could argue that sex sells..which leads us right back to porn.

  • The Magician

    Honetly after I stopped watching porn for like two to three weeks I felt different. My mind definitely changed but I no longer have a desire to watch porn. I just recently did and well it made me feel bad after. I started thinking about actually having sex until I ran by a quote on goodreads “Anyone can take off there clothes and have sex but to share you dreams, passion, future, and hopes with someone is to truly be naked.” That quote has truly made me rethink about just going out and having sex along with my friends telling me that it’s better to wait. I’d rather be naked.

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